Break ups are rough, but when you're boyfriend breaks up with you while you are still in love with him...well that just makes a break up go from rough to living hell. The hardest part while going through a break up is probably the loneliness. I don't know about you, but most of us aren't really comforted by friends and family's words of condolences and optimism.
Of course they all mean well, and it is always nice to have people around you trying to help you when you're so down. But the sad reality is that when you're hurting from love, from someone you love walking out on you, the only ones that can make it all better again are you...and him. But mostly him.
How do I know if he still loves me?
The worst thing about breaking up with your partner is the break in communication. You just don't know what he's really going through, and you don't know how he really feels about you now. If he says he still loves you, but doesn't want to get back together...then does he still really love you? Maybe he just thinks he still loves you because he does feel sad about the break up, but deep down he really just wants to get over you - hence why he doesn't want to try again.
Ok, so maybe that's a little dramatic, but I'm sure you know what I mean.
Not knowing is hard because it leaves your mind open to ponder all sorts of things, but especially things that don't involve you getting back together any time soon. The silver lining though is that as long as he's still showing any emotion towards you at all (even if just to argue) there's a good chance there is still love there. Love is a strong emotion, it bonds tight enough that we can't always shake it even when we desperately want to. Sometimes the only way we feel like showing our love is through bickering, and dramatizing things for the other person's benefit.
So if you think there's a chance he still feels love for you, well that's really all you need to know if you want to win your ex boyfriend back.
How can I win him back?
Okay, so now that you know your ex boyfriend hasn't discovered the magic light switch for love and shut off his feelings for you, what do you do next? Well that love is the major link in getting him to come back to you. Even if he is currently being distracted by other women...
Sadly, a typical thing for people to do when they're are going through the pain of a break up is to 'hook up, to move on.' That of course means that your boyfriend (for example) may think hooking up with another girl will help him get over you sonner than later, thus relieving his pain.
This almost never really works for people that were really in love before. They usually wind up either going from relationship to relationship for years trying to get back what they had with the one they loved, or getting back together and having the issues that follow the knowledge of one-night stands and other women.
Love is an intense emotion, and it can string us along for years. Unfortunately, most people have no idea what's going on behind those complex emotions. Therefore, most people just deal with the heartbreak - not knowing they don't have to. If you and your ex were in love, there are things you can do to get your ex to realize his love for you.
The secret to this is psychology. Not the first thing most people think of, I'm sure. While it makes sense that we feel so helpless in matters of the heart, the truth is we really aren't. That kinda rhymed, haha.
What it all comes down to is this - if you're really serious about getting your ex boyfriend back, then you have to be ready to use psychological tricks to get him back. There are things you can do to trigger the attraction your ex boyfriend had for you when you first met - things that will make him want you back.
These psychological techniques are quite powerful, and can therefore be abused. So if you want you boyfriend back because you have some kind of sinister revenge scenario you are plotting, then please just leave the page now and do not click through with the link below.
These psychological techniques should not be abused. You should only click through if you want your boyfriend back to love him and make things better between you two this time. Those of you still here, if you are ready, click the link below to gain access to the 'psychological tricks' you can use to get your ex boyfriend back.
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Final Warning:
I'll be honest here -- not everyone should get back together with their ex boyfriend. Before you look for any "secret plans" to get him hooked on you again, make sure that you REALLY want him back.
If you're absolutely, 100% positive that you want to get back together with your boyfriend again, click here.
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